THINKWELLNOW

Changing Thinking, Getting Positive, and Moving Forward

Author : Gary Kennedy

What If Your Identity Was a River? Embracing Constant Change

Have you ever felt a subtle pressure to define yourself, to neatly summarise who you are in a few concise labels? Perhaps it’s your job title, your family role, or even the beliefs you hold dear. But what if the most authentic version of you is not a fixed point, but a continuous journey, a river constantly carving a new path?

Think about it: the person you were five years ago is not exactly who you are today. Experiences have shaped you, perspectives have shifted, and perhaps even your core beliefs have subtly evolved. This isn’t a sign of inconsistency; it’s the very nature of being human – a constant state of becoming. Just like a river never holds the same water twice, neither do we remain static. Embracing this fluidity, this inherent capacity for change, can unlock a profound sense of freedom and self-acceptance.

Find Your Compass

Managing Life’s Twists and Turns Ever feel like you’re adrift, unsure of your direction? Life throws us unexpected challenges – an empty nest, a career change, or just a general sense of unease – and it’s easy to feel lost. But as Anna’s story, featured on our East West Coaching podcast, demonstrates, even during major […]

Escaping the Drama

The Drama Triangle, with its roles of **victim, persecutor, and rescuer**, creates a cycle of dysfunction where no one truly wins, but by shifting to the Empowerment Triangle, we can foster growth, creativity, and positive change, with the roles of **creator, challenger, and coach**.

The Psychology of Resolutions

Why We Make Them (and Why We Break Them) Introduction It’s January 1st. The air is filled with optimism, and many of us are armed with a list of resolutions. But by February, many of those lists are gathering dust. Why? New year is traditionally the time (at least in the West) for setting resolutions. […]

Why Pausing Isn’t Optional

Mastering Mindful Communication We’ve all had those moments of impulsive reactions, where emotions take the wheel and lead to regrettable words or actions. It’s a common human experience, rooted in our primal instincts to fight, flight, or freeze. However, in today’s complex social interactions, these instinctual responses can often hinder effective communication. The key to […]

Beyond the Surface

Responding to Emotional Outbursts In my previous post, we explored the importance of acknowledging and naming our emotions accurately. Today, I’m shifting our focus to how we receive and respond to the emotions of others. Facing the Outpouring Few of us relish being on the receiving end of a verbal outburst, whether it’s anger, frustration, […]

Why More Precise Language Helps

Understanding Your Emotions We often resort to broad terms like “happy,” “sad,” and “angry” to describe our emotions. While these labels offer a basic understanding, they fail to capture the nuances of our emotional experiences. By employing more precise language, we can gain deeper insights into ourselves, communicate more effectively, and negotiate life’s challenges with […]

Unleashing Your Imagination

A Path to Positive Change Renowned therapist and NLP co-creator Richard Bandler emphasised the transformative power of imagination. He believed that envisioning a desired future is crucial for achieving it. By painting vivid mental pictures of our dearest wishes, we can identify the necessary steps to turn our dreams into reality. This isn’t about magic […]

The Power of Our Stories

Rewriting Narratives for a More Fulfilling Life From the earliest days of humanity, storytelling has been a fundamental aspect of our existence. Around campfires, we shared tales of heroes, villains, and mythical creatures, weaving narratives that shaped our understanding of the world and our place within it. This tradition continues today, with stories shaping our […]

Rewriting Our Stories

A Journey of Transformation There’s a certain magic to reading aloud to children. It’s like sharing a secret world, a place where dragons roar and princesses save the day. These stories seep into young minds, shaping dreams, fears, and aspirations. But it’s not just children who are influenced by narrative; we adults are storytellers too, […]

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