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What If Your Identity Was a River? Embracing Constant Change

Have you ever felt a subtle pressure to define yourself, to neatly summarise who you are in a few concise labels? Perhaps it’s your job title, your family role, or even the beliefs you hold dear. But what if the most authentic version of you is not a fixed point, but a continuous journey, a river constantly carving a new path?

Think about it: the person you were five years ago is not exactly who you are today. Experiences have shaped you, perspectives have shifted, and perhaps even your core beliefs have subtly evolved. This isn’t a sign of inconsistency; it’s the very nature of being human – a constant state of becoming. Just like a river never holds the same water twice, neither do we remain static. Embracing this fluidity, this inherent capacity for change, can unlock a profound sense of freedom and self-acceptance.

Find Your Compass

Managing Life’s Twists and Turns Ever feel like you’re adrift, unsure of your direction? Life throws us unexpected challenges – an empty nest, a career change, or just a general sense of unease – and it’s easy to feel lost. But as Anna’s story, featured on our East West Coaching podcast, demonstrates, even during major […]

Escaping the Drama

The Drama Triangle, with its roles of **victim, persecutor, and rescuer**, creates a cycle of dysfunction where no one truly wins, but by shifting to the Empowerment Triangle, we can foster growth, creativity, and positive change, with the roles of **creator, challenger, and coach**.

Why Pausing Isn’t Optional

Mastering Mindful Communication We’ve all had those moments of impulsive reactions, where emotions take the wheel and lead to regrettable words or actions. It’s a common human experience, rooted in our primal instincts to fight, flight, or freeze. However, in today’s complex social interactions, these instinctual responses can often hinder effective communication. The key to […]

Beyond the Surface

Responding to Emotional Outbursts In my previous post, we explored the importance of acknowledging and naming our emotions accurately. Today, I’m shifting our focus to how we receive and respond to the emotions of others. Facing the Outpouring Few of us relish being on the receiving end of a verbal outburst, whether it’s anger, frustration, […]

Rewriting Our Stories

A Journey of Transformation There’s a certain magic to reading aloud to children. It’s like sharing a secret world, a place where dragons roar and princesses save the day. These stories seep into young minds, shaping dreams, fears, and aspirations. But it’s not just children who are influenced by narrative; we adults are storytellers too, […]

The Power of Perspective:

Embracing Empathy in Our Relationships In our work and personal life, we often find ourselves tangled in misunderstandings and conflicts. It’s a universal truth: we all make mistakes, sometimes upsetting others or exacerbating situations despite our best intentions. Recognising our humanity means acknowledging our imperfections and the complexities of our actions. The Inner Advocate: Justifying […]

Transforming Ourselves: The Key to Personal Freedom and Lasting Change

The old joke is that a bride thinks of three things when she walks into church, on her wedding day: the aisle, the altar; and the hymn: “Aisle, altar, hymn. Aisle altar hymn; I’ll alter him!”. This encapsulates a common, yet misguided belief that we can change others to suit our desires or to improve […]

Forgiveness: Insights from Stanford University Project

Forgiveness is a powerful tool for personal growth and peace. This blog, inspired by the Stanford University Project on forgiveness, provides practical steps to foster forgiveness in our lives. 1. Acknowledging Feelings and Seeking Support: It’s crucial to name your feelings about the incident and recognise that the situation was not acceptable. Sharing these feelings […]

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